Honor Your Husband day #26,27,28,29

Life is a blur...
We have a saying here in our home... "Let kindness be the rule of your heart."
Being nice is an important part of friendship, marriage and parenting.
My beloved is very nice. Today I overheard him wrapping a birthday gift for a party I was taking the children too ( he was actually teaching Dove how to wrap it). He knew I was posting on the dog bath ( it was he who suggested the light spark on the last picture, cute idea) and IT ( I ) MATTERED TO HIM. I think seeing what matters to each other and making it matter too, is a very big part of his nicety toward me. That is a big part of who he is and who I am too. When we are able to make the importance of each other paramount, we are nicer to each other. It is when one of us feels neglected that nice can slip. Being post menopausal surgically, I have not been nice all the time (I know no one ever is... ), but beloved does his best, even when I may not be due to a migraine or daily issues that cause major stress. He tries to be nice about setting strong loving boundaries with me. It is hard to be nice sometimes but I watch him struggle through and succeed in overcoming big obstacle's.
Every day his kindness sets a pace as the head of our home. He is not a perfect man. He is a living man, full of character and at times he is a real character with a humor that sets a light hearted tone.
Soon I shall pack picnic lunches and eat with him in a park that is near his work. It has been a full summer of swift glimpse, loving words on the fly, business meetings over family budgets, and medical stuff for the kids, brief hugs interrupted by chattering children. We visit; but far too often over the issues of parenting and the kids interventions. Business meetings are not the only thing we long to discuss. We shall speak soon of thoughts ideas and dreams, Books he is listening too on CD, walks I will be taking. We do some now, but soon we can just sit together even if it is just in the stillness. We do not leave our kids in childcare and we do not have extended family for them. So with a very few exceptions we parent 24/7. I look forward to our afternoon lunch dates. They are one of the best parts of the school year.