Saturday in the park:)

What a nice day!
I awoke at 5:30 a.m. and set to task.
Arriving at the park on what was a "San Diego Day" cloudy and cool. The birds were so wonderful and the sky was filled with song. I had two hours to decorate.


We had a nice turn out. What wonderful families came. Some really great parents. It was really fun.

The kids all free played and then came in for cake and played some more.

After a while they did presents.

We even had a Mother with a sick child come and drop off a gift. That was sure impressive.

The other Mothers wisely stashed the gifts away in the gift bags so they would not get opened.
I met the Art teacher at the kids schools. She sets up the art master piece for the fourth graders. Photo Daughter is s volunteers for this program at her school so I was familiar
with it.

Now that was an easy party!
The whole thing was so peaceful and I so enjoyed the other parents.
We all headed back over to the house and Julie and her daughter came as well as Michelle daughter. Then when Michelle came we ladies had a peaceful visit and just hung out.
I have so much peace and everything turned out so well.
I rested in the afternoon and then the four of us went over to the elementary school and played basket ball until I had an asthma attack and had to rush home for a breathing treatment. The kids had showers and then we hung out on the "big bed" and gabbed and watched a little TV.
Daddy Man showed us some cool videos of "dry ice" exploding and such. Cool science. They are in having story time now.
That was a full day!
We did little to the house today it was a family and friends day.
Dash was given so many cool toys. His best friend gave him the same two Lego kits I did. It was the two he had prayed for. He was so thrilled to had double sets.
I love it when God answers my kids prayers like that.

Thank you Jaye.

Back at you!

Staging, playing and delighting in the day!

Well my Dash is seven! How fast time fly's!

Little Dove is so proud to be able to help him light his candles.
The cake was a gift of sorts. I went to the store and they were out of cakes , but...I happened to look over the counter and saw the woman who had helped me on Monday with Doves cake. She said I could have one of the ones she was decorating she even put a tree on it like Dash had desired. It was however chocolate when we cut into it.

Dove was a little more like a hawk awaiting her prey. She is having a few boundary issues I need to address. She and Dash played so well together. They are like a little symbiotic organism. So attached at the arm.

I am doing a lot of staging and preparing of the Estate. It looks so pretty. I emptied the big sewing desk. I will be putting it up on Creg's list soon with a few other things. I hope to replace it eventually with a sewing table.

I am closing down shop for a few months. It will be a strange thing for me to close down the studio. Wow I am so looking forward to seeing what lies before us. I am rather excited to have the settling into our next home. I am ready to have an adventure!
Mr Uncommon is so freed up in his spirit. I see him coming home into his true way. I have missed my Beloved as the stress of our finances have so consumed his beauty and gentle spirit. I see him coming into himself. He is such a delight. A truly wonderful man. His spirit is so fresh and bright. When he is in himself it is pure delight. Being held by him his very muscles a more at ease even. It is a joy to let go of all this stuff just to have him full whole and free from the stress. I love him so much. I have missed the relaxed husband I married so many duties and responsibilities ago.
Well I got a play date at the park after school with the kids and a another mom. I better pack up and ready myself.
Delight in the day!

He said ..."Just do what I show you"

As I awoke to this new dawn These words were with me ..."just do what I show you"... Your load is mine and it felt really light. I rose and made a fast sandwich for "The Mr" and off ran to joyful dogs to their run. I feed them and the road is as if I am floating above it.
Dash is seven this morning bright and alert to that fact as he declared the achievement first this that he spoke. Dove is tender and sweet awake early as well. The dawn now coming a minute sooner each day. It is nice out around the mid 50's.
I had a good cough and out came less of the grunge than yesterday morning. That was the first day that I did not get a post to you all . I wish I could give you a piece of the peace that I have. This is a new day with only 2 more days of the anti-biotics to take. They really leave me feeling dizzy,tired and ill, but they are working to kill this bad guy that climbed into my chest.
I am looking forward to tonight. I am going out with the girls to a pottery place. You all go over and give Trisha "Photo daughter of the King" a hello for me. She is a sweet heart I think you'd enjoy your visit. Her and I have been friends a many a year.
Dash had a family birthday yesterday evening with the Grand parents. It was so thoughtful of them. They brought "Fazoli's" thats spaghetti for those of you else where. It was so nice not to have to cook. The kids were nuts though vieing for attentions and just really being more of a challenge than a sick mommy could put up with. Dove was being regressive and just well....jealous very jealous. Oh children...
Blogger is down so I'll have to load the photos later.
The children are playing with the new toys that Dash got. They are sure good together when it's just us at home.
I have had a strange week. On Sunday Beloved walked up to me and handed me a diamond ring! I thought he went daffy on me for a moment. He told me not to get to excited he found it! I have yet to have it tested so I do not know if it is real. He found it in the sand at a park. We put out found notices and have had no callers. I just might have a new ring. Sure feel bad for whoever lost it though. It is not mine though I am just getting to enjoy it. It is at least a half CT. I think. If it is real it is a significant find. Diamonds falling from the sky as a friend told me. "Only Me!" :)
Sometimes I just feel like he is shining on me. I feel that way today. My health is retuning and I am able to sit here and scribe with the touch of a gadget.
I have Dash's party on Saturday and I am walking into what I see to do. It is really my hope that it does not set me back being out in the lawns. I will rest as much as possible today and just "do what he shows me" and no more no less.. Oh I have such peace. I am letting go of my possessions and I am alright with it. Years ago I let go of everything from my family of origin. All the things I came into my marriage with. It was a n act of obedience to what I was compelled to do. Now 20 years later I am letting go of things again. Down sizing and shedding some of the weight that is heavy upon us. It has a liberty I just find amazing and strange to explain. I am going to sell my big sewing desk and perhaps my hutch. It will help us to fit into a smaller house. I have not been asked to do this by the mister..it is just what I see myself doing. It is so strange that I am not upset by any of it. I see in the future perhaps replacing it with a sewing table a real one. I do not know what the future holds but I do know (intimately) the one who holds it. It is a wonderful adventure to freedom. I can only imagine how it will be. I will see him face to face. I can only imagine.
Did you all see LOST last night? I sure enjoy that show. I watch it alone in the bedroom under the covers with a nice glass of ice water. My hubby brought the ice water and a smile. He is so sweet and is taking good care of me.
Well I better get the kids fed for school. The Lego's are flying in the room as they search out each little treasure and create the magnificences of childhood.

My Friends

Good Morning Friends and Readers. I am joyful the day. Physically I am very weak. My heart is strong within me with praise for this good life I live.
My health is challenging me right now. I am coming into the mend. I feel the healing beginning to occur within my lungs. I slept again this morning after the children to school. My sweet son is having a birthday tomorrow so I will use all my strength to go get him a gift and a few party favors.
I am grateful for your kindness and I appreciate your prayers. I will rest in His strength. I know I am in His palm and it is warm here in His palm. Oh goodness is over me and peace within me. I am happy.

Tackle It Tuesday

Hello, Friends
Today I have just been tending to laundry and resting. It has been a quiet day for me.
Yesterday was my last day of steroids for the breathing difficulties. I am a bit run down. So no big tackle for me today. Just a great morning nap and an afternoon folding laundry, breathing treatments and contemplative thought.
I hope all of you are enjoying your day.

Adoption Day (10 years)

My Sweet Daughter.

Your humor and kind heart fill my life with so much joy!
Happy Adoption Day #10
Wow! ten years ago the judge said "yes".
I love you so much.
As I pause to reflect...
it simply amazes me how privileged I am to be your Mother.
Just tears me up with gratitude.

It is always a mystery to me what I wrapped. I knew it would be one of the dolls.
Next year I think is the girl doll to match him. Her adoption day gifts are all wrapped in her paper from her baby showers. She was a very celebrated baby.

He is hand made by a local Russian artist. We bought him at a kiosk, a type of little shop set up on the streets. They line the sidewalks. Barter system was still used there. This was 10 years ago on a icy, snowy sidewalk. I can still see the doll hanging up on the shelter of the lean too shack. I loved the beauty of the hand work. The boots are real leather and the fur is authentic. She warmed up to him after a while. I think it was a strange thing for her to open.

Wow she is so grown up.
My Little Dove.

Marriage Monday "Is Divorce Ever Right?"

"Is Divorce Ever Right?"

I have been married over 25 years! I have watched the marriages of many of my peers. I have watched sand bars ship wreck them. Ill informed decisions.There have be those marriages that are simply two ships in the night passing by each other perhaps bumping into each other in only physical ways (gratifying each other sexually but nothing more). There are those who have entered into it and tried all they might to be "sub-servant" as if that were the measure of a mate. Now those marriages were ship wrecked. For the two become one not the one is lord over the other. Often when the legalisms wear off they are left with choices that were not true to the heart with bitterness and resentment settled in (in some cases children that were not truly desired are left to suffer).
Our marriage was a triad from the begining. Yet we were wounded as are so many in young adulthood. I had prayed for a man that loved God (not a religious man). I also asked for a home of my own.
We went through so many hard times. I remember when I was at my lowest point in recovery (see my other blog) that I told my husband that he should divorce me to save himself from a life of difficulty. He angrily told me to "Shut up!". I tried so hard to push him at are needful to attain maturation and restoration from the challenges away to see if he would really stay and be there for me if he truly would always be there for me.
He said Donetta, "I made a vow to you, I love you by choice. I have promised God and you to stay by you in sickness and in health."
I spent 7 long years in and out of surgeries and of mental institutions walking the path to restoration from sever abuse and torture. I was a walking wounded. He walked beside me and was healed right along side of me. You see he showed me first that he loved me. When he went through the healing of the wounds of his life I was able to walk right there beside and along the road with him too. He had been my example. It is important here to develop boundaries but not bitterness and accusations.
Life is hard. Few offer the lessons to us th that this world dishes out.
I above all else guarded my heart from bitterness. I, as he has had, every right to become embittered at times.
It is by choice that we lay down those rights.
We have watched countless marriages where dysfunctional relationships become embittered battle grounds for resentment. Immaturity and selfishness center the stage to a focus that leaves families and partners in the shadows of the light. Greed and devistation embroil a family into so much debt that the very breadth of relationship is all but extinguished.
Aside from violence, (removing yourself to safety) and infidelity (though I have watch restoration in other marriages, even of these wounds) I see no wound to great that healing through mutual true repentance is impossible.
We make a choice.
We cut covenant.
A good understanding of covenant is helpful here. This is vow.
At 25 + years by walking through this agreement over and over never once giving into the option. For us there is no other option, we had made a choice to overcome all wounds with respect to the heart of our mate. Believing so deeply in each others full potential.
In every decision there is a price and a gain.
In the midst of emote those things can be cloudy.
Consider wisely if the gain is even there to leave.
For history repeats itself and until your wound become whole you will just marry the polar opposite or the same man different suit.
If bitterness sets a root. If healing is impossible (nothing is with God and the free will choice He gives us) and hardness sets in.
Some hardness is so vial and bitter. Violence soon adds license in these things and it is a very unsafe place to be.
He did give them the writ of Divorce
because of the hardness of their hearts.
May it never be that my heart harden...
Now that is an act that is also of my will every day every moment.
To learn to understand and not get hardened to behavior. It is to Understand the "why" of the thing that can often free up the healing and the real heart of the man can be observed. They are as we walking wounded . A major epic is unfolding. We are all important in the story of it. Not that one should fall into the despair of broken dreams. Dreams however are only a hope and expectations are a set up to disasters.

Good Morning,

Just friendly reminder that Marriage Monday is right around the corner (March 3, 2008).

By majority vote, our topic will be, "Is Divorce Ever Right?" Here's an opportunity to share your wisdom, Scriptural knowledge, experience, quotes, or any other insights you might have. Please feel free to approach this vital subject from any angle you feel led. The idea is to promote some vigorous thought and discussion, so all points of view are welcome and encouraged.

See you at Chrysalis on Monday!

Blessings,

e-Mom @ Chrysalis

"WHICH WOLF ARE YOU FEEDING?"

There's an old fable about a Cherokee Indian elder who was teaching his grandchildren about life. He said to them, "A fight is going on inside you. It is a terrible fight between two wolves. One wolf represents fear, anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego. The other stands for joy, peace, love, hope, sharing, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, friendship, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight going on inside of you is inside every other person, too."
The children thought about it for a minute, and then one child asked his grandfather, "Which wolf will win?"

The old Cherokee elder replied simply, "The one you feed."

Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires. Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you. James 1:19-21