Saturday, November 27, 2010

Through new eyes

looking to a photo
of a day so long ago
deeply into the faces mirror the truth
oh battle wherry
battles won
Mother holding daughter
Mother holding son

Father sanding panicked
oh how will I provide this
shell shocked
in his heart desired
her wishes dreams
his heart only to fulfill

two babies
needing so much more
loads of therapy in store
years of intervention
while mother needs a surgery
trial after trial

Battle after battle
family, friends and more
taken by so many wounds

Thursday, November 25, 2010

Happy Thanks giving and receiving of LOVE.

Your kindness has warmed me. Your knowledge uplifted me. The beauty that is within you has touched my heart. Life is to be shared, carried, and walked beside.
Your prayers have sustained me, smiles have restored me. Memories of times we have known, thoughts we have shared they echo in my mind. Often reminding me of your journey calling me into intercession on your behalf.
In these silent weeks stillness removed my word, voice and thoughts from being expressed. I have been grieving, healing and getting stronger. A stronger hold on who I am, what I believe and the legacy it is my hope to pass forward.

It has been very challenging to find my way through the mind fields to remain uncommon. To keep peace I tried being another to keep others comfortable allowing things around my life that I am opposed too. Other things that I was afraid of being rejected by many of you who may hold a different value.
When I stopped being who I am, saying what I think with bold abandon I became common. When voices of opinion removed my own I faltered. Yet I falter. As do we all.

I have an elder sister who would it seems to remove all of who I am. It has been very difficult to speak freely. I have removed myself from face book. This is more my style. Privacy feels calmer here.

Although this life affords me so many many things, opportunities and people to love and be loved by, I grieve. Grieving the things that I might try to keep myself positive about, thankful for and humbled by.
Learning to adjust to 3 good weeks ending in a few days of all stop, guarded from bacteria of others and even my own family well it is a process. Lessons of pasing myself during a time that so many things were left unattend during the gradual slowing due to the place that the cvid had left me. With all diligence I pase between not burning the infusions off too fast by over doing it, and trying to get my home in order, children raised well and a marriage that is strong and loving.

Having the infusions saddens me, but I can not tell you that.

For I am to be grateful, as I am yes.

If I am asked to mask, it would be that I remain silent. For the truth of where I have been at is not lovely. My mind has not thought 'on these things'. It has been in shock of sorts. After all I have done, all that has been accomplished it was in my mind that all the struggles would end once the accomplishment of "giving myself a life". The reality is not in the hope of what was thought to be. Even as it was often a driving force to keep me going. It is that only is there another road to walk. It left me staggering a bit to see that those targets, that keep us focused on a matter will move and shift through time. It is a natural thing.

I was so set that it would on day be finished. I have had to and am coming to terms that it is what it is.
Yes yes I am thankful for all it is , who I am. The PTSD has changed my abilities and that has hit hard to think of all the medical interventions that came down to that. the PTSD causing the memory stuff. Boy I was just humiliated. It felt humiliating another blow to my heart. One that really hurt.

Non the less my dear friends my life is different than what I had hoped it would be. This is a normal thing perhaps for all of us.

To all of you You matter to me. Emails are rare and comment too. At times it is all I can do to read you, listen to your hearts. Your posts all so often feed my soul. Your comments build me like a brick wall. Some days it just amazes me how ya all help to refocus my vision. My love redirected to my maker and off of the things around me. Thank you for that, it keeps me like life. Words of life. sorta like an infusion of it's own :)

To all of you I am so very deeply thankful for who you are. Your hearts have touched my heart and kept it often strong at a weakened moment. Strength is gaining in the sorrow comes healing. Terms of acceptance is being reached.

The sorrow of my Eldest Sisters passing, touched that in her death the cvid was discovered and again she gave me life. She the one three years in to (some 20 years ago) recovery came to defend the truth I told. She saved my sanity too. It is all too holy. This silence has been a bit of that too. Walking on that holy ground of witnessing Gods loving gentle hand upon my life.

Each day even if it does not FEEL like it I am so very aware that the gratitude deeply placed within me remains.

For this I am Thankful. Happy Thanks giving and receiving of LOVE.

Wednesday, November 24, 2010

Enjoy the times together with your loved ones.

Me thinks every family must have a
Debbie Downer (click here)
This a must see. 
Oh we are laughing so hard. 
Now every time we have a negative moment we do the slide horn and chuckle, lightens every challenge.

endure the commercial it will be worth it. 
There are several others. The one on the family holiday at Disney Land is a real belly laugh.

Enjoy the evening and remember to take time for each other.

The belly is less important than the hearts of those around you. 

We have had a great day together just doing simple homestead type things. Sounds strange perhaps but we have been tending to the sanctuary called home. It has really been a wonderful time together. We kept the kids home. They had a half day today mostly play stuff at school.

We decided to gift them with a mental health day :)  Oh it was so wonderful to see the little faces when given a choice whether to go to school or not. Dash decided to go thinking that it was just an offer to be tardy.

When I woke Dove up and offered she was so funny. I told her to just think on it let me know if so.
She was so grateful to stay home. Then Dash understood it was an all day offer. They played together all morning. Thankfully watching those ties that bind brother to sister, we know the right decision was made.
Many tasks were tended too. One that my heart has desired so long. The boys (daddy man and son) cleared out the edging under the clothes line. It has been a real ankle biter for years.
Then we fished Dove away from her monitor and she came out to throw an ax. It was so awesome!

WE ALL were really enjoying the tasks and the time together. They played on the bricks. Dove played with the chickens. We really had time to show simple things like the momentum of an ax. 

Simple knowledge yes but so rich.
 Dash did math with the bricks. They even spelled out their names and we took pictures. The three of them stacked the bricks. Simple living fun. It just must sound bizarre but they really had fun. Each of them felt so lifted up in self esteem. They each felt so happy to bless me/us. It is just so very much to be thankful for.

She was so excited and happy! Imagine it, throwing an ax and having fun doing it!
uncommon family

Now the dishwasher was broken and Beloved hubby milled made a new part out in the garage. We have a better than new part now. Gave it a good vinegar wash and it is like new. Stainless Steal is beautiful! No more hard water issue.

While he was doing this my big task took on a deeper project. New grout for the shower stall. The things that make us happy. I know I am weird. It was just so satisfying to get that yuck out of the stall.
This last infusion just fueled my jets.
I actually used a razor blade in handle to scrape the entire glass it is so pretty now. CLR was also used. With gloves yes. I know it is not 'green' but yet it is. Lye is a natural element.
The grout removed it is bleached (yes I know but no more mold) now it will dry over night.
I am so excited to take the first shower in it on Friday. It will need a 24 hour cure time once it is caulked.
There were some new tubes of caulk in the garage.
It is so wonderful to use up what we have.

Enjoy the family and all the things that make you happy.
Even if they might seem weird to anyone else.

We are 'Thanksgiving' Happily.
May you and yours find many happy thanks-giving moments together tomorrow and every day.
We will be going to the movies together, and having an adventure of some sort.
Just look so forward to seeing what the day holds before us.
No expectations and few plans of our own.

Monday, November 22, 2010

Encouragement the bread of life shared.

Some folks KNEED a bite of encouragement now and then. Times often are those of silent introspection. Ya know a hunger can come on a soul that lasts well into emaciation of sorts. Breaking bread with one another is a good thing. It is more than what goes into a body. It is what comes out. Sometimes hurling out all that is stored up to belly hurt is a good thing. Spiritually and physically as well. Gets all that poison out of a system. Sure can make a mess though. Funny how some folk might just love enough to wipe it up or hold your hair.

This is speaking of those starved souls that feast on a simple word, a morsel even if it is dropped on the ground at the far end of the table. Now being asked up front to sit beside the head of it all, well that's an honor that almost makes a soul bow head to not see eyes of resentment or jealousy. Keeping eye low when sitting at the head of the table is a false stance. Were it not for the invite...well invited guest have right to hold head high. To eye to eye the guest sitting round about.

If your ever sitting there at the head of the table not really feeling if ya belong. Stick close to the host for he thought of you for a reason. Be close to your friends closer yet to your enemy.

The wish is always however the host be friend, fond loving and willing to fill your plate with encouragement. Breaking bread...well that's just what it is all suppose to be about.

Enjoy your preparations as your feast awaits you. Offer up those morsels to your guests. Bring the low up to the seat of honor. Let em' feast a while.

The most unusual of Thanksgiving days

Sometimes in life a real big change is in order. This year something we have never done before.
We are calling a sorta ALL STOP for Thanksgiving. Off the wheel we will be just the four of us. Little core with a new take on the holiday. We do not really eat like the usual fair. Only thing we all like is the turkey roasted and the whip cream on pie. See the kids won't eat potatoes, never have. As babies they had to drink potato water in bottle when in the orphanages. See the children around the world do not all have milk or formula. Both kids HATE taters except for fries and tots. Now Steve and I love a good mashed potato, baked or just about anyway to have them. So if they are made it is just us two. We like the gravy they do not. We all like canned cranberry other than that we eat fresh greens, salads and raw veggies. We like the rolls that's about it. Well I enjoy a good stuffing.

We are not going to make our day about food, cooking, buying, cleaning and stressing out. This year is for us to play board games, have moms attention, peace and relaxation. Sounds strange true, yet it is right where we need to be.  We have all voted to go see a movie.

The kids are so very happy to have me out of the kitchen and all of us enjoying each other. Fixing the big meal meant that the kids were never really able to have mom time on their day off. We get to awake together, do our devotions. Cuddle, giggle and play. Food will be there and not the center however. We may love it or regret it but it is where and how we will be this year. This is the first time in many many many years I will not be setting a formal table, cooking endlessly and cleaning every little cranny while decorating. I may miss the entertaining sure. We need a time off though. We need to just knit together the four of us. I think I'll cook favorites that each might enjoy. No waste, no big left overs to over indulge in. We may take a nice drive, perhaps a day trip.

No real plans have been made, no set in concreate ideas.
Play. Fun. Joy.

Older women likewise teach the younger women...

• how to love their husbands
• how to love their children
• how to be self-controlled
• how to be pure
• how to be keepers at home
• how to be kind and submissive (not subservient) to their own husbands. (See Titus 2:3-5)

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By Maya Angelou

'A woman's heart should be so hidden in Christ
That a man should have to seek Him first to find her.'

When I say... 'I am a Christian' I'm not shouting 'I'm clean living,'
I'm whispering 'I was lost, Now I'm found and forgiven.'

When I say... 'I am a Christian' I don't speak of this with pride.
I'm confessing that I stumble and need Christ to be my guide.

When I say... 'I am a Christian' I'm not trying to be strong.
I'm professing that I'm weak and need His strength to carry on.

When I say.. 'I am a Christian' I'm not bragging of success.
I'm admitting I have failed and need God to clean my mess.

When I say... 'I am a Christian' I'm not claiming to be perfect,
My flaws are far too visible, but God believes I am worth it.

When I say... 'I am a Christian' I still feel the sting of pain...
I have my share of heartaches, so I call upon His name.

When I say... 'I am a Christian' I'm not holier than thou,
I'm just a simple sinner Who received God's good grace, somehow!

Words have power. Here are a few of my favorite sayings.

  • A warm cup of tea is like a cuddle with a friend.
  • The North American Indians have a more eloquent word for ‘friend’ than we do in English. In their language, the word for friend literally means, “the one who carries my sorrows on his back.”
  • Return with Honor
  • The sage anticipates things that are difficult while they are easy, and does things that would become great while they are small. All difficult things in the world are sure to arise from a previous state in which they were easy, and all great things from one in which they were small. Therefore the sage, while he never does what is great, is able on that account to accomplish the greatest things."
  • “Live so that when your children hear these words they think of you… Fairness Caring Integrity Honesty Love Trust.”
  • "O Lord help my words to be gracious and tender today, for tomarrow I may have to eat them."
  • "No man has ever been shot while doing the dishes"

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Zephaniah 3:17 NLT
"For the LORD your God has arrived to live among you. He is a mighty savior. He will rejoice over you with great gladness. With his love, he will calm all your fears. He will exult over you by singing a happy song."

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