When you have a family life comes at you.

Carnival of Family Life

Carnival of family life.

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When you have a family and life comes at you.

You manage it.

Last night ,once again we had the opportunity's to manage it.
We had bedded the children and were going to our own slumber early for us. Showered and in bed before 10 P.M.
Enjoying sleep is such a pleasure.The children learn much better and many studies affirm the importance of good rest. They slept well again now two nights in a row. We dim the lights early and have the routine running smoothing. We too are shutting down the bright lights including the monitors to help our system shift into a mode to rest. It is a bio-chemical bio-logical process we are learning how to respect.
Last night asleep early , showered and in my bed sleeping ,I awoke to my woven gown tight on me and got up to use the commode and shift my gown that would not fix into the normally loose fitted white cotton gown that is my favorite. Sleeping I noted the strange fit and laid down to shortly realized that I could not breath right. I noticed that funny feeling (on the left this time) of my face. It was swelling fast! OH MAN! NOT AGAIN!
So awaking my very sweet husband I reached over to an empty bed. I was groggy and felt again. So rarely in my 25 yrs of marriage had I ever felt him missing from beside me.
I made it to the bathroom and found the bathroom door shut. He was on the commode ill with an upset tummy. I asked over him and then told him of my present danger with the face swelling again. We tried to consider calling on friends. We live a long way from all of those who are so sweet to offer. It was of course midnight. For a moment I felt afraid that the ill will of those I had exposed were spiritually attacking us. I shared that fear with beloved who promptly shot it down. So after much consideration of waking the children to take them to the ER that hubby would either sit with them or have to take leave to take them home.We shot that down too.
Being a Family really pulls on all that is within you to do what ever it is that you are able . Even if you don't want too. So off again, Alone I drove the 21 miles to the ER. The nearby hospital is really bad. I had the same procedures and injections.
It happens in families that a hardness, a protective callus can cover the (what would be thought of as normal) so called normal panic and response. We have watched so many illnesses play out over 25 years that we just don't hardly even panic at all any more. This calm demeanor was once not so. Now it is however. I think there may be mercy in it. It could seem a little heartless. But life is about the other guy too. Beloved has a heart that feels and bleeds and is saddened when illness strikes. It is,as a family guard around our hearts protect us from unhealthy stress. Mothers must function when babies are sick, we can't afford to just fall apart. I see it like a safety valve for family's
Safety valves that protect us from stress overloads. What is truly marvelous is when we face these things and we have become desensitized to the point of a reassurance of faith. That faith is that God has us, each on of use in his protection. I know many of the early years, as a wife, hold the healing of those fears that can threaten the loss of your spouse. Fears of a traffic accident or some crime when they deviate 10 minutes from schedule. Cell phone stopped some of this for the last generation. When I was a newly wed it was not so. We had to trust through those silent hours, without a voice and a face so longed for. It was easier for us however then our forefathers and fore mothers who lived so far into a wilderness that weeks sometimes could separate hunting husbands from families.
This is a big part of maturing as a couple and as a family.
Learning to manage. Management is a processes of knowledge gained and implemented. Understanding is the begining of that. Understand your family members. Look into the lives of each one. Learn how they tick and you will see how best to serve them and to manage the surroundings, stresses and crisis.
It has been a remarkably full day of management. All is good. Hard times are stealing my mettle (my resolve) to manage my family and my life.
Be Embraced all.
I am back on cortisone and will gain an immunologist next week as I am able, to address these inflammatory events. I know God has me in the palm of his hand.