Works for Me Wedensday, Parenting Friends

Friends for life.

This is Dove's bear and Dash's Micutoo.
I am raising the children to be friends.
I teach them that they will have each other for life, either as friends or enemy's.
I tell them that they get to choose.
One day I stopped interrupting their battles and empowered them with two rules.
No hitting and No name calling.
Other than that they need to work it out.
I teach them boundaries. "When you I feel and I would rather you do ..."
This has given them the social skills to build relationship.
They are to get along with each other or we have no play dates.
If they can not get along than they do not have others come into their chaos.
This instills a purpose and a importance that is in their currency.
Now my kids are around three years apart.
This really does make a difference.
When they hit or name call a loss of privilege or a consequence is placed upon them in order to help them remember the lesson not to punish them.
They have learned the importance of an apology and forgiveness.
When they are not able to get along they are separated to have private time apart.
We take turns with them one on one with each parent to meet their attention needs where they are full focus as often as possible.
IT IS WORKING!