Thankful Thursday

When we do the best that we can, we never know what miracle is wrought in our life, or in the life of another.

Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired and success achieved.

Helen Keller
US blind & deaf educator (1880 - 1968)

My sweet daughter has surgery tomorrow to remove two teeth so that her orthodontic work can continue. Sweet Little dove had a pretty tough time meeting the surgeon. She was so afraid. She had told me that she did not want the other surgeon because he had hurt her leg. So I worked it out to find another to replace him. After the interview as I was tending to the financial she admitted she had told a lie because she was afraid. Poor thing...I told her I forgave her. That it needed to be addressed so that folks did not think ill him. I explained that I too was very afraid before I have surgery, that I understood. I told her that we would be staying with this second surgeon and not switching again. That I felt good with this one. She later agreed.
It is so hard to think of her suffering. I will hold her as long as I am able before surery. She is gratefully comforted in that.
I had to give her a valarian root capsule last night tonight I have a valume for her and for in the morning to help her sleep. We filled the pain medication as well so we will have it on hand. It is going to be a full weekend. I should think of meals to do ahead today...
I will have her call the office of the first surgeon to clear it up. Sweet kid that will be a bit hard for her but I think it will build a good character (I'll be very gentle)
I am so thankful to be here to help her learn such vital life lessons. To comfort and support her.
I took them to the grocery yesterday to tend to acquiring soft foods for the weekend for her.
As we were leaving the store she put her hand on my arm looked up to my eyes ...I paused and smiled at her...then, She softly and sweetly said..."thank you mother for taking such good care of me and getting all my needs for my surgery"...
Oh a moment in time marked and felt deeply.
Thankful am I, and she is so very grateful in her character.

Yesterday I had the children join me to watch an Ophra show that had a family in financial crisis due to greed, broken hearts, indifference and neglect. The children are growing in appriciation for finicanial disapline. Beloved and I think it is important to teach these things in an age appropriate way. Thankful am I that they get it.
They were sad to see that the mom in the story indulged to the neglect of the health care for the kids. The Dad in the story neglected his role as head of the home and turned an indifferent eye and then just targeted the wife with it. Both were culpable and my kids saw it. Too cool! They said they see that if they got everything they wanted that we would be doing them a disservice. How cool is that!
Dash gave the example..."mom, he said...it would be like if you bought me a toy and I played with it for an hour and then just tossed it aside...that would be disrespectful to all the hard work Dad went through to earn it.."...I then asked what they thought we felt when we walked by their rooms to see things scattered all over the floor"...
Dash and Dove both looked thoughtful and said..."disrespected!" and both came to me and embraced me lovingly, smiled and said..."wow" we never really thought about it that way.

I want it to go so well for them in their lives. I desire that they prosper and thrive. I teach these things without inappropriate guilt. For guilt manipulation does little to instill strong character just makes a person week to the responsibility and a prisoner to shame. May it never be the motivator unless it is appropriate shame that calls for a change in behavior.
I gratefully teach tankful to see freedom grow within the kids to choose wisely. They are such amazing little vessels to be filled. I really Love them so much. I want to clear the road of their life from traps so readily set before them.
It is suppose to be a stormy rainy weekend here. It will be a movie weekend. How very wonderful that I get to hold this sweet child for days. I will be able to comfort her. Dash will need attention too. Daddy Man will be here too. He has thoughts of working Saturday to help with the budget.
Full day ahead.
For the Lord knows all these things I have need of.
This is his sweet child I get the privileged of raising. As you know we do not own them :) He know what she has need of.
Surgery cost out of pocket 100% has been covered!
Grocery is covered.
It is even going to rain and that makes for a calm relaxing sick day too.
Dove is my concern, she is 75 pounds on my lap with spinal sniosis it can be VERY physically painful for me holding her. If she fights me it really hurts. So My desire is for her to be able to be calm the morning of surgery as I hold her whilde they do the IV and such.

Dash and I are both being effected with this bad air. He is having a breathing treatment right now.
Oh life! :)

I am so appricitive of all of your thoughtful loving kindness of prayers.
Thank you.