Marriage Monday :The Surprise of Christian Marriage

The Surprise of Christian Marriage

You might find it surprising to hear that I think in many way a "Christian" Marriage is not that different than a secular marriage.
That is until you might come to understand my perspective.
I see great difference between "Christian"religion and Relationship (friendship) with God through Christ.
It is one thing to be a born again Christian
and another to be so and to intimately walk with God.

I have watched that, each group will have those opportunities; every day of whether or not to let the hardships of life, or the offenses/sins/crimes of a mate bring about a hard hearten bitterness. Even if/when it seams perfectly understandable and just to be bitter.
I have witnessed it in the pews as well as the pulpit.
I have watched those who may not even know about Christ treat their wives better than many "Christian" men do.
I am surprised when wives are started at the unkindness of a new mate who proclaimed the "Christian" title yet be no different than any other broken soul.

Every day all marriages face these things.
I find it surprising how many well intended "Christians" work within there own power to achieve a standard, as do those in the secular realm.

In any union it is a question of Love.

In the power of our own love whether Christian or Secular our own love is never enough.
When we try to Love within our own power we falter whether "Christian" or not.

There are instructions, in the Manuel of Life, (the Bible ) that address us with knowledge.

questions...

Do you love your wife?
For her and for your children are you laying down your life?
Wives respect the husbands
honor one another
live honorably
To do good and not evil all the days of your life.

I find that in my marriage this the most surprising thing.

I am Loved.
Beyond his own ability as an act of His Will,
Through his friendship with his Creator, our God.
I am loved.

I am made able to Love him beyond my ability as well.
We are Made able to be patient, kind, forbearing, forgiving, long suffering,holding no wrong of an account.
Love is not a feeling it is an act of the will.

I love God
God loves Him
I long to show him how much I love his very creator, by deferring to him.
God loves my mate more than I can ever hope to be able to, yet that makes me try all the harder.
For I too love his God.

Wounds can harden a soul,
Friendship with God will heal them.
My Friendship with God will help heal him, as he helps heal me through his friendship with God.
We become whole and that is sweet.
There are ways to avoid many additional wounds.
That flapping thing between our teeth is the biggest.
Another is the mind, for in it is the battle.
Guarding the heart is paramount!
Both his and my own.

Choices to be made every day.
Forgiveness to be given and received.
In Relationship with God,
these things are possible.
Without God we can do nothing.

If we are or are not "Christians"
It can makes a surprising little difference.
It is God who molds the will into the ability.
God does not force His will on us and as surprising as it may be...nor can we be allowed to enforce our wills on another.
This is a horrible abuse both in Christian and secular homes.

That is the most surprising thing I think.
Like just because of a title that does not signify the willingness.
Hardness of heart can happen to everyone.
It is an act of the will a choice to run into Gods shelter to avoid it to change our choice.
So many have been forced into hardness , by "Christian" mates.
For this he made a way of escape.
A writ of divorce.
We were told though...do not harden your hearts as in the day of provocation.
Even if your pushed to this...or handed it, do not harden your heart.
It can then heal in the aftermath, if it is pliable.

Everything with us as Friends of God will sway us to do what is right for we long to please Him.

My marriage is a union centered on a triad covenant to become in union with My mate through the Intimacy of Friendship With God through Christ.
I long to LOVE for God Loved me first.
I long to Love for God loves my husband more than I can of myself.
I want the best for Him.
He wants the best for me, for the same reason.

Dear Blogging Sister,

You're invited to join us for Marriage Monday on February 2, 2009.

The Surprise of Christian Marriage

Lynn at Spiritually Unequal Marriage will be our guest hostess. Our topic is, "The Surprise of Christian Marriage."

Fire up your keyboard and tell us something that really rocked your world after you got married. Was it a blessing? Or a disappointment? Was it something you were completely unprepared for? Tell us how you handle the unexpected in your relationship.

Then, be sure to stop by Lynn's blog and leave your permalink in Mister Linky. Afterward, take some time to sprinkle your comments around the Marriage Monday blogosphere.

Invite Your Bloggy Friends

Feel free to copy any part of this announcement and post it on your blog. I think you'll agree, the more participants we have, the better.

Hugs & Blessings,

e-Mom @ Chrysalis

http://chrysaliscom.blogspot.com