Three Things My Daughter Must Know About Her Marital Needs

"Three Things My Daughter Must Know About Her Marital Needs."

#1
First and foremost would be that a lasting marriage is a triune affair. I want her to always remember that I prayed for a man who loves God, not a religious (mans rules) man.
That with a triune marriage it is a covenant (an unbroken agreement where each lays down his own life for the other) between three parties. God, Wife and Husband. We have a built in advocate. We have a promise to God as well as our self and our mate. That this should be clearly understood by all parties.

#2
Life is a shared adventure...
A man need a beauty to rescue, this is a cause to fight for . It is in a mans heart to be able to fight for his beauty. If she be to independent and remove herself from inter-dependence he has lost his cause and will look for another cause to fight for.
It is err if she "becomes" his adventure to live for . A woman needs a shared adventure .She does not want to BE the adventure but to share a common adventure. A man needs to know that he has what it takes. This is something that that only God can answer for a man. However a wife can be an example of Gods grace and mercy in this through believing in her man and by encouraging him daily.
A woman needs to be "the beauty" at the table. The thing that captivates her husband. A Man who admires and encourages a woman to walk in her power is a man who admires true beauty in his woman. He empowers her to be who she is created to be. He is not intimidated by her power.
#3
"Life is a Battle"
Life is a battle an ongoing war between all that is Holy Righteous and good, and all that is perverse evil and wicked. Life and death. We have to choose life moment by moment in every word that we craft from our lips. We must craft life.
It is not what goes into a person that defiles them but every word that comes out of the (heart) mouth.
The power of the "Word" is paramount. We must guard our tung for it will bring life or death. It is not easy to ever take back a word spoken and the enemy of our life will replay those words and twist them into a bitterness of heart that will often harden the hearts of each other toward the other. We must hold our tung in anger. Never go to sleep on anger. Peace above all to guard hearts from hardening. Hardness comes by one wound left un-healed at a time. Then year after year the hearts become a more ridged stone that is brittle and breaks at tragedy or cold to love. We must season our words with kindness and like Ester of old we must use perfect timing too. When our hearts are FOR each other and FOR Gods will over our own this is accomplished.
I have been able for many years to be a party to healing the wounds of my husbands heart in this. When I consider his heart before my own and see the restoration of his wound he then loves with a gratitude that is un-dieing and everlasting. And visa versa.
Knowing that our battle is not against flesh and blood (each other) but against principalities and rulers in heavenly places. Modern Christianity (using the term loosely) teaches salvation, tithe and all will be roses and such. If you have a problem it is because your not DOING it right (this is a lie) or a half truth.
The Gospel teaches that it is Grace plus nothing and that we are in a battle. That we have an adversary. In recent history we have been lulled by our enemy to think that he is not really there. He is!, and marriage must fight as a unified front to this assault of the family. For it is in breaking down the unity of the family unit that so much of the success of the dark side has prevailed. Often when a couple hit hard times the accusations will fly because someone must be doing IT wrong. Divide and concur. When a problem hits instead look to the root cause, is a wound making one of us act strange address the wound with loving kindness do not attack the other for behaving badly. The behaviors are a symptom of a deeper need. Address the root and heal the problem.
Immaturity is one of the greatest challenges. Grow up together. Learn together.
Choose wisely. By gaining understanding before you mate for life. Gain knowledge as you go and live WISELY.

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