Tuesday, February 23, 2010

life 101

People don't behave the way you want them to behave. 
That does not mean that the way they behave is wrong.

This quote past by my eye today.
Of course with moral exceptions, commandments and taboo's.

This applied to me in a different way today.
It gave me a peace where my concern over my own behavior.
Thinking of how troubled I am over an offence cause by holding a child accountable.
I was concerned of the parent being upset that I confronted a child under my care for dis regarding my instruction to say on the property.
She caused a second child in my care to follow out of fear for the girls safety.
Then my son went with the girls as a gentleman.
When the mother came for the child, I told the mother with the child in the back seat what she had done.
The child even made acknowledgment that she knew I said not to leave the property.

Oh then I told the child that she owed me an apology, but she was welcome to come again.
Because she owned the error.

Her Mother,
well, the child is never to come here again and my daughter never to go to her home.
"We don't owe her an apology" Sadly was the woman's quote.
"we" no just the child.

Now I have thought of calling to make peace for the concern of removing strife.

Then this day I relized that

Even if the woman disagreed with my behavior to confront her child,
That does not mean it was wrong

Perhaps like wise to the Mother she saw nothing wrong with her daughters behavior.
The child has a different life style.
For the child to disregard the instruction of the care giver who has charge over her...
that leaves me not really wanting to care for her again.
That type of level of risk is beyond me.
Could you imagine if she might of been abducted or harmed or injured.
She would of taken another kid, and my own son down with her.
Bet her mom might think differently of my behavior then.

Sad thing though that this ended the opportunity to get to know what other wise seemed like such a lovely woman.


Denise said...

Sorry about this sis, love you.

Susie said...

That is the hardest thing about living in society with other people. Life is so difficult and when you figure out what works, you have no idea why others aren't doing it the same way. Hard to see eye to eye when you are looking down at someone.

Amrita said...

Hi Donetta, I think you id the right thing

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Hi Donetta! I have a lovely award for you over at my blog! I am so ready for Spring!!! Love and hugs Grams

Annette said...

If my daughter was over there and all this took place I'd be so appreciative to you for caring and being concern, but some people just dont see things like you and I. Your a GREAT person and its sad this mother doesnt realize your best interest was for that child's safety!!

Hugs always~

JUST A MOM said...

Stand up for your beliefs and know that YOU did what was right for YOU. You can NOT own the other mothers actions. This child was in YOUR CARE so you had every right to tell her SHE broke YOUR rules. Now for the after math,, IT IS WHAT IT IS AND WILL BE WHAT EVER IT BECOMES. let it go.

I would have done the same. ((HUGS)) love you, :^)

Mary said...

I just stopped by to say hello and pondered awhile about the incident you relayed to us. That woman is not able to see shades of gray and you have been spared a relationship that would very quickly become a burden. There may be only one truth, but there are many views of it. Her view of the truth is much different than yours and she has chosen to dismiss yours. You can try, but I don't know how you make peace. I don't think she listens. I hope I'm wrong. Blessings...Mary

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